Who Wears The Pants?

Margaret Thatcher's husband was once asked who wears the pants in their household. He replied, "I do, and I also wash and iron them". 

I thought this was quite funny and it made me think about this question again.

In the old days, it used to be the man or father of the house. By old days I mean, when I was still a kid. We're talking about 30 years ago here. But this used to be the answer if someone asked, who wears the pants in your household?

My dad used to make all the decisions. The buck stopped with him, and that was final. In the old days this might be okay, but these days I think the answer to the question might be different. 

Before I go on I just want to say that this is my own opinion. It is not based on years and years of research. I'm not a psychologist nor have I studied to be one. I'm a father of three and this question just triggered a discussion in my head, nothing else. 

These days your wife has just as much say in what is going on in the household as the man. Gone are the days when you decide what car to buy, when the house should be painted or what kind of dog or cat you should get. 

Times are tough. Nowadays both husband and wife work. Long hours as well. Both of you contribute to the finances of the household. Don't you think it's just fair that the wife has a say as well? Just asking.

I value my wife's input. She sometimes thinks of stuff that I would never have thought off. Let me use an example. We needed a family car and I immediately started looking. 

The obvious choice would be a SUV or something similar.My wife said we should get a double cab pickup. So we started debating. Me being the man gave her all the stats and figures. Fuel consumption, features, value for money and so on and so on. 

She just said one thing. "Remember one thing, we have three children". I thought about this for a while. With the money we had, this made sense. I could not afford a big SUV. I could afford a medium sized SUV which will work for short distance trips where luggage is not an issue. But for longer trips with 5 people's stuff, this made sense.

There is enough space for luggage at the back and there is ample seating for the rest of us. It does not have the features and comfort levels of a SUV, but it's practical. I sound like a car sales man. Forgive me.

Anyway, the point I'm trying to make here is that both you and your wife have to make decisions together regarding the household. It's not up to you anymore. Value your wife's input. Listen to what she has to say as well.

You might just be surprised.

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